| The people who tend to eat too much also should be careful. Many
express their loneliness in their climacteric age, and they often
tend to eat too much. Overeating can be caused by loneliness. Drinking
issue can be one of the symptoms in climacteric period. There are
data that while men take as long as 20 years to become alcoholic,
women at their climacteric period take five to ten years to become
alcoholic. The cause for both overeating and overdrinking can be
the same, which is loneliness. Lonely people suffering from long
nights of worrying about the same thing tend to have these problems.
Either overeating or overdrinking, improving diet is the shortest
cut to the solution.
Have you heard " empty-nest syndrome"? Empty nest, nest
without children in other words makes some people lose their meaning
of life. They feel empty inside, and extremely isolated. The children
stop talking to them all the sudden, or not only that they do not
come to their parents anymore, but also the parents have no idea
about what is going on with their children's mind. The parents who
had tried extremely hard to get children pass entrance exam for
university are more likely to get this syndrome. They are the people
with very strong sense of responsibility who think that children's
education is all their responsibility.
It is very important not to be so hard on yourself. To avoid aggravating
climacteric period-related symptoms, it is essential to make friends
so you don't feel isolated, and cherish the friendship you already
The people who were beautiful when they were young are more vulnerable
to climacteric age. If they looked beautiful and very popular among
men, they have extra fear against getting old. The fear I have mentioned
can be issue here again. Getting wrinkles, spots, gray hair... they
are all natural in the process of getting old, but they attack those
women with extra shock more than others.
They end up with more sense of isolation and fear, and it becomes
harder for them to have future prospects. Their physical condition
becomes unstable and they become more sensitive to pain. This is
caused by the wrong definition of beauty. Some people misunderstand
climacterics period as time limit of being woman, but this is far
from being true. No matter what, women are women for all of their
lifetime and that is something they can be proud of.
All the more, women should be even more fashionable after their
climacteric period. From inside and outside, brushing up oneself
is such an important theme.
It never helps to worry too much about what would happen to you
in future. Especially if you were seeing a male doctor for climacteric
period-related symptoms, sometimes he might shock you by implying
as if your time as woman is over. Some male doctors say things like
that based on wrong recognition, so you need to be careful.
If you are a single workingwoman, another thing to watch out for
is excessive competitive spirit. Today, either in capitalism or
socialism, many young people are taught that surviving in this world
is all about competitions. With current Japanese education, the
only people who won the competitions can get good positions in society.
The same thing can be said in the U.S. Unfortunately, the people
who grow up with the wrong idea that the world is made of competition
tend to feel very isolated in their climacteric period.
There are so many things in the world that you do not have any
control over. People with too strong sense of competition have extremely
hard time when they face the fact. If they were good looking or
good at studying and able to keep jumping over the hurdles in the
early part of the competitive world, hitting climacteric period
when they live alone with working hard, they often do not consult
anyone. Quite a few people push themselves as far as possible even
though they have lack of estrogen. They do not know what to do besides
At the time like this, I would recommend consulting a friend, a
book, or female gynecologist. This is not prejudice against men,
but I believe at least there are more female doctors than male doctors
who understand women's mind.
In Tokyo, 50 % of women above 35 years old are not married. With
men and women together, almost 60% are not married at that age.
I would say that situation like this would only aggravate climacteric
period in future. Working in competitive world and living life alone
after may lead you to fear. In that term, having friends you can
trust is essential. Either they are male, female, older, younger,
it is highly important to be able to be honest with friends about
your physical and mental issues, and exchange information to think
of better strategy to work on it to support each other.
There was this phenomenon started happening about ten years ago. When
men retire around the age of 60, his wife says," I want to
divorce today". It means" I don't need you anymore. Good
bye" and in other words, "your retirement day is the day
my happiness begins." Some even asked for the half of retirement
payment, or if not that extreme, it is said that quite a few Japanese
women refer their husbands as oversized garbage.
This comes down to the reverse rotation in the first half and second
half of their life. If the men are high-handed, or they are the
only ones doing what they want to do in the first half of their
relationship, the women end up tolerating too much. Unless they
readjust their relationship at their climacteric period by putting
effort from both sides to get over the period in harmony, women
would be the high-handed ones after 60s.
In fact, the husbands often become discouraged and lose confidence
after their retirement. In contrast, women who have tolerated in
the first half of their life become so much stronger. You can assume
that climacteric period is when women get the power shifted toward
them. Whether this is good or not is another story, but "establishing
good relationship" is fundamental theme after climacteric period.
This is the only way to save both of them in future, say, when one
of them had cancer.
If the couple was not getting along, when the husband wants to try
certain treatment for cancer, his wife and children often go against
it. It is a common case with a couple who do not get along that
the partner of the patient interferes with the treatment method
the patient wants to try. Ironically enough, it is not as simple
as reversing power shift between men and women would solve their
problems. It is more important to understand what it means to help
each other and try reconciliation.